Originally from Alternatives to the High Cost of Litigation

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What is at the heart of regret?

Regret is a negative emotion and is classified as a subcategory of sadness. It can be linked to feelings of shame, embarrassment, depression, annoyance, or guilt—although regret is considered to be distinct from guilt. Scientists contend that guilt is a much deeper emotional form of regret, and is derivative or subordinate in terms of emotional valence or intensity.

Although often used interchangeably, regret and remorse are not the same. Remorse has a stronger nexus to specific past actions that are considered by society, or in relationships, to be hurtful, shameful, or violent. Remorse is coupled with acknowledgement, redemption, and apology.

Regret bounces around us internally as we reflect on our decisions, actions, and omissions.